Wednesday, December 11, 2019

How Involved Do You Really Need to Be?


There tends to be a spectrum of involvement for parents of children taking private lessons. There is not a “one-size-fits-all” spot on this spectrum, but usually the more involved you are, the more success your child will have in their lessons.


When I was a kid taking lessons, I sometimes needed reminders to practice, but I wanted to do the practicing myself. I didn’t want anyone sitting with me helping me! But my daughter is the opposite. Even though she has the ability to practice on her own, she prefers me to sit with her to help her out. And I must say, it is nice to have one-on-one time with her!

Since you know your child best, you will find the best place on this spectrum for you. Younger children (4-5+ years old) need a parent on the right of the spectrum; with older children, you can start sliding left. However, with any child of any age, don’t just assume that they will know to practice without reminders. If they do just practice on their own (#unicorn!) enjoy it!

As parents, we have a lot going on. We don’t need one more thing to do. Building practicing into your routine, however, will help it become more automatic and less stressful. I always thought I hated cooking. But what I actually hated was trying to figure out what to cook at 4 or 5 p.m. and having no clean dishes to work with. Once I started meal planning each week and setting out the meat to thaw each morning, I found that cooking was much, much easier. I just had to rearrange my routine and planning.

If you are having trouble remembering to have your child practice, try setting an alarm on your phone. I set mine to 7 p.m. If I haven’t had my daughter practice by then, we go and do it at 7. Time enough to practice but still get ready for bed in time.

In summary, find your best place on the “parent involvement spectrum” and continue building practicing into your routine. Your child (someday!) and your teacher (now!) will thank you.

“Alone, we can do so little; together, we can do so much.” Helen Keller

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